Sexual taboos – history of emerging and influencing sex life.

The term “taboo” comes from the Polynesian languages (south central Micronesia). This word originally meant “a religious ban”, but this meaning was transformed with time. Today, “taboo” is a prohibition of mentioning certain objects or persons, or making a particular action associated with the potential danger. These prohibitions were developed by primitive society in order to avoid danger. For instance, incest is one of the oldest taboos. Some sex taboos still exist in the contemporary society. Sex intercourse with children is also considered a taboo today, and the violation of this rule is punished severely. But at other times and in other nations it was not always so.

Personal sex taboos

After the sexual revolution in the US, a quantity with sex taboos was limited. What was previously banned for discussion is now an open topic for mass media.Usually, taboos are determined by a society, but each person has his/her personal sex taboos. Sometimes social bans do not come into harmony with the personal ones because the society has renounced most of the sexual taboos. Individual sex taboos are usually based on experience, education and psychological characteristics of a person. We can say that personal taboos are conditioned by the individual complexes, for instance, personal attitude to oral intercourse. Oral sex is not a taboo in most modern countries because it is discussed everywhere. Some people, however, find this sexual practice dirty and inadmissible. For these people, oral sex is a taboo. Some female persons accept only traditional sex. Consequently, all experiments in a bedroom belong to their personal taboos. Such females consider themselves as highly moral persons and think that all non-traditional sexual practices are dirty. In reality, such people suffer from sexual complexes, thereby spoiling their lives and lives of their partners.

Problems caused by sex taboos

Sexual complexes prevent people from enjoying all sides of love in full. They may cause problems with a sexual partner. For example, a male person likes oral sex that gives him special pleasure, but oral intercourse is a taboo for his female partner. Another example: a woman finds herself unattractive and always keeps the light off during sex. Men think literally. Her partner may interpret this gesture in his own way: “She is displeased to look at me” or “I am doing something wrong”. As a result, sex turns into a burden or the performance of partners’ duties in a strictly allotted time. Such difficulties can destroy the relationship. Of course, you have to discuss with your sex partner what is allowed in bed and what is not. Most people are against sadism and masochism (S&M) or BDSM. Also, there are a number of taboos, which are really appropriate and necessary in the life of every woman. For instance, the taboo of having unprotected sex shouldn’t be destroyed as long as a relationship with a male person will not pass the stage of “testing”. In addition, sex with unknown people must be accepted as a taboo, because it can be dangerous.

Therefore, you have to try and get rid of the sexual complexes but act carefully. However, if you feel that taboos are beginning to control your life – get rid of them immediately.